Why My Wife Doesn't Want To Have Sex? - 10 Interactive and Reactive Sexual Reasons | Dr. Doug Weiss

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There are ten primary reasons your wife doesn't want to have sex with you. The first five interactive reasons are some of the most common areas you can focus on to improve your sex life with your wife. If you don't see these five interactive reasons present in your relationship, take a look at the next five reactive reasons. If you address and fix these reasons, you can have the best sex and sex life ever.

1. Too Busy or Tired. Ask your wife what she needs you to do when you get home. Just spending one hour after work helping your wife can help your sex life. Helping out around the house, occupying the kids, or finishing things she needs to get done will give her more time to have sex. You can also look into energy supplements and vitamins if her lack of energy is a secondary factor.

2. Intimacy Anorexia (IA). This reason is about her creating distance and having a defined lack of intimacy in your relationship while she blames you for it. The signs of being IA are that she is so busy that she has time for everything except for you; she blames you for problems in the relationship; she withholds love from you in ways you want to be loved; she withholds praise from you and doesn't appreciate you; she has very little or no sex with you; she is unwilling or unable to share her feelings with you; she uses anger or silence to control you; she controls money and spending; she uses ungrounded criticism against you. The outcome is that you feel unloved, unwanted, and married and alone - almost like a roommate.

3. Depression. Depression leads to difficulty concentrating, difficulty making decisions, low energy, worthless feelings, and possible suicidal thoughts. This can impact your sex life since your wife will be dealing with all of these other depression-related feelings instead of wanting to have sex.

4. Hormones. Hormonal imbalances lower women's libido. This results in changes in sex drive and the frequency they want to have sex. Medical procedures like hysterectomies play a part in hormonal changes as well. Hormonal replacement therapy and supplements can fix some of these problems.

5. Grief. Grieving can shutdown women's sex drives. If this is the case, it is important to find out what she is feeling and help her through the grieving process.

The next five reasons are reactive sexuality reasons. These reasons impact your sex life when your wife can sense when things are not "right" in the relationship. These next few reasons cover why your wife might be distancing themselves from you.

6. Sexual Addiction. Your wife can sense when she is not getting all of you during sex. Things like sex addiction, viewing pornography, and masturbating make her not want to have sex because she feels like something is "not right" and you are giving yourself to other things.

7. Not Keeping Your Word. If you say you are going to do something, do it. If you don't do it and only do what you want to do, she will begin to disrespect you. This is because she will feel like she is married to a boy instead of a man. Build respect by taking care of business to improve your sex life.

8. Not Helping Her. If you want your wife to come into your world and play sexually, you have to be involved in hers. This includes helping around the house, being interested in what she is doing, and lending a helping hand when you can.

9. Praise and pray with your wife. This creates emotional and spiritual intimacy. Emotional closeness turns women on just like physical closeness turns men on. The more emotionally close you are, the more sex you will have with your wife.

10. Avoiding Intimacy. This reason is like #2, but it happens on your end. If you are avoiding intimacy with your wife emotionally and relationally, you can't expect her to be intimate with you sexually. Create intimacy across all levels of your relationship - emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

If you need more help learning about intimacy and having a better sex life, you can learn more at https://drdougweiss.com or call the Heart to Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708. Our counseling sessions and 3 and 5 day intensives help you recover your relationship with your wife or partner. Take your intimacy and relationship to a deeper level and contacts us now.

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